Some helpful websites:
http://verahouse.org/
http://jbws.org/
For a free 10 lesson middle/high school curriculum that I co-authored click the following link:
http://jbws.org/publications_submit_know.html
Many of you who may have looked at my Etsy Shop might have noticed that I ask that you support the fight against dating/domestic violence. Domestic violence is an issue that is closer to me than seeing it on a talk show or in the news. Violence of any kind is a crime. If you feel that you are a victim of domestic violences, please call the U.S. National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
Domestic Violence Checklist
Does Your Partner…..
Embarrass you with bad names and put-downs?
Make you feel unable to make decisions?
Blame you for how he or she feels or acts?
Keep you from spending time with your family and friends?
Intimidate or threaten you?
Grab, push, pinch, shove, slap, or hit you?
Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
Pressure you to do things sexually that you aren’t ready for?
Tell you you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?
Control what you do, who you see or talk to, or where you go?
Do You…..
Sometimes feel scared of how your partner will act?
Constantly make excuses for your partner’s behaviors?
Always do what your partner wants you to do instead of what you want?
Believe that you can help your partner change if only you changed something about yourself?
Stay with your partner because you are afraid of what your partner would do if you broke up?
If you answered “yes” to any one of these questions,
you may be in an abusive relationship.
• Do you have to get permission to socialize with your friends?
• Are you accused of cheating on him when you leave the house to do errands, etc.?
• Are you afraid to talk about certain topics unless he's in a good mood?
• Does he have control over the money and monitor your spending?
• Does he tell you no one else would ever want you?
• Does he threaten to harm himself if you leave him?
• Does he go through your purse or open your mail?
• Does he make disparaging remarks about the way you look or dress?
• Does he use things against you that you've confided to him in the past?
• Does he sabotage your efforts to be involved in pleasant social or family events?
• Does he compare you negatively to other women?
• Are you nervous about being on the phone when he is around?
• Is it okay to return home later than scheduled without being fearful?
• Does it feel more like you have a dad than a partner?
• Does he give you the 'silent treatment' when you want to talk or work things out?
• Does he try to turn the children against you?
• Do you feel manipulated by his kindness or gifts?
• Do you feel obligated to be sexual with your partner?
• Are your activities and interests looked upon as unimportant and trivial?
• Does he sabotage your schedule and outside commitments?
It’s not love, its ABUSE.
1 in 3 women will be in an abusive relationship
at some point in their lives.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
EMOTIONAL ABUSE CHECKLIST
• Do you have to get permission to socialize with your friends?
• Are you accused of cheating on him when you leave the house to do errands, etc.?
• Are you afraid to talk about certain topics unless he's in a good mood?
• Does he have control over the money and monitor your spending?
• Does he tell you no one else would ever want you?
• Does he threaten to harm himself if you leave him?
• Does he go through your purse or open your mail?
• Does he make disparaging remarks about the way you look or dress?
• Does he use things against you that you've confided to him in the past?
• Does he sabotage your efforts to be involved in pleasant social or family events?
• Does he compare you negatively to other women?
• Are you nervous about being on the phone when he is around?
• Is it okay to return home later than scheduled without being fearful?
• Does it feel more like you have a dad than a partner?
• Does he give you the 'silent treatment' when you want to talk or work things out?
• Does he try to turn the children against you?
• Do you feel manipulated by his kindness or gifts?
• Do you feel obligated to be sexual with your partner?
• Are your activities and interests looked upon as unimportant and trivial?
• Does he sabotage your schedule and outside commitments?
